Directness as a method
Neutrality can quietly protect a destructive pattern. RLT calls it out — the grandiosity, the contempt, the withdrawal — while staying warmly on the side of the relationship and of each person in it.
Looking beneath the fight
The presenting argument is rarely the issue. The work traces the adaptive strategies each of you learned long before you met, and how those strategies now collide.
Full-respect living
The standard is simple and demanding: no contempt, no control, no unilateral withdrawal. Sessions build the skills to hold that standard even when you are hurt.